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Nov. 10th, 2008 09:09 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png)
Five years ago today my mother passed away. After several years of progressively worsening dementia, she had a massive stroke during the night and passed away the next afternoon. I still can't decide if I was more saddened or relieved when it was finally over. I'd lost my mother a long time before this sweet old lady died, so it was almost like losing a very nice neighbor than a relative. At the same time, there was no chance now, however fanciful and foolish, that my mother would ever come back...
We had our ups and downs, and I think more downs than ups, but she loved me and I loved her, all the same. And I miss her. Very very much.

We had our ups and downs, and I think more downs than ups, but she loved me and I loved her, all the same. And I miss her. Very very much.
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Date: 2008-11-10 07:17 pm (UTC)It wasn't drawn out for her. She initially recovered after surgery, but then the cancer had spread and she went quite quickly at the end. It was just over a year from when she first became ill.
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Date: 2008-11-10 10:05 pm (UTC)That was a lovely post.
It seems from the psot that she had a positive impact and that's about the best we can do in life, is positively affect soemone, and who better than our kids?
there was no chance now, however fanciful and foolish, that my mother would ever come back...
You keep hoping though, don't you. I remember when my grandfather was diagnosed as terminal and given less than a week. As expected, he did not last the week, but I remember hoping against all logic that he would somehow swing back.
For me thugh it's somehow easier to see it coming. It's painful to not be able to stop it and have to watch someone you love die, but for me, it's more painful to have had no warning.
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Date: 2008-11-10 10:39 pm (UTC)That's a stunning photograph.